Annotated Bibliography #4

Zoellner, Tom. (August 27,2007) When Adult children Return Home. Third Age Magazine.

This article talks about Bill, a father who went from his daughter being gone to moving back home and how it has tried his patience in this new relationship. He feels he has gone from being father to landlord. It talks how the have to realize she is now an adult and have to try and treat here that way. It gives statistics of men, their age, the the percent who are living at home, compared to 1970 and how it has increased by 15%. The article explains how some parents emjoy the company but children that come home are usually coming home for a hard situation and that already puts stress into the relationship and maybe even worries the parents into thinking they did something wrong. It seems to intervene in the parents developing a new relationship as they are alone again. He realizes he needs to treat her as an adult and also set some guidelines for her but hasn't done it yet.

"The time when children leave the house is also when long-married couples begin to reevaluate their relationship as husband and wife, said Bernstein. Children who return can throw this process off-track."

"In spite of the fact that it's your house, if you decide to share it with them, you better give them some space," he says. "They have their own ideas and agendas. But you also have to set some limits. You can't let them walk all over you."

These are both quotes I can use to back up my claim as well.