Annotated Bibliography #3

1 Sept. 2008 Living with adult children, Children. Youth and Women's Health Service. Cyh.com.

In this article it talks about why young adults don't leave home or why they come back. They usually don't leave if they have a good relationship at home, the parents are ok with it, and if they can feel just enough independence but also security by staying. They usually come back because of some kind of crises, which has them often return in a rough emotional state, which can effect how they get along with the family and add extra stress to the parents. It discusses the impact it has on parents since they now have to readjust again from having the child gone to having them back again. Sometimes parents can feel angry and resentful but sometimes they try to look at it as a way to gain more as an adult relationship with their child. They article mentions many things you can do to make it work like making clear conditions and expectations on rent, chores, cooking, laundry, transportation, friends coming over, quiet hour, and what is accepted in how they treat each other. The article explains how they need to treat the child like any other adult rather than their own child now. The kids now have rights to make choices as an adult rather than a child like clothing choices, friends, and money but the parents have to give them some amount of freedom on that but also decide what they are comfortable with. It even talks directly how the parent should deal with sex, and whether or not they want to accept that in your home, as well as drinking, smoking, and drugs. It counsels to talk this all out, maybe with a counselor first, and then even writing it all out with your child before any contention occurs.

There aren't any exact quotes to use but I will use a lot of the general info to state my claim.